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Please check out the FAQ, if it is not answered there already:

Based on observations and our own experience, we have already set it up so that matching personality types (compatibility) and match percentage as well as common interests provide a good indication of what could be a longer relationship. Also pay attention to how honest you are with each other. After all, lasting relationships are sincere and real. Thats why this place is called Realmance.

To get more valuable infos, check out our research about this subject, you can find most of it under articles or in our newsletter. We gift those that subscribe to our newsletter free account coupons.

Go to Tests and take a few personality tests. You can set the result by clicking on your profile picture in the menu - Edit - Base. To get the most out of it, answer the questions under profile picture in the menu - Edit - Match Questions. The answers will then be displayed in your profile and serve as the algorithm for good matches (shown on a scale of Match 0% to 100%).

If you want to get the best results, a good profile can certainly help. Go to the Menu, click on your name or profile picture and go to Edit. Click on Base, answer everything as honest as possible, then go to Match and answer all questions, you don't have to answer Additional (Questions), but you can, if you want people to get to know yourself better.

We recommend to upload a profile picture that shows you as natural as possible but also from a good perspective, here is a life hack for that: Record a video of your face and the most beautiful landscape, your favorite activity, or whatever comes to your mind as something you like in others and make screenshots of the scenes were your face looks the best. Upload the best screenshot of that video as a profile picture.

If you are not good at deciding what looks best, try to google celebrity photography and look at their perspective.

Some more lifehacks to improve the profile picture even further: Try to laugh or grin or show a cute smile. Or for men: Try to look competent (that can also include being able to take care of a child or a pet).

More tricks for Men or people that want to appear masculine: The best perspecive is from the side, with a sharp filter.

For women or people that want to appear feminine: The best perspective is from above, side or front and a happy expression with an aesthetic wardrobe, a softer filter and warm colors, if you look cute and soft it's a big bonus.

For everyone: Keep it casual and not too nerdy, look relatable and take pictures of situations were you had a great time.

If you are into a special type of people, find out what style they prefer and appeal to that style. But keep your own touch your own self to it. If you don't want to disappoint others by your appearance, make your photos as honest as possible. Stay real.

After registration you have to upload a profile picture. Go to Photos - Upload, make sure that it has a good resolution and that only you can be seen on it. Please note that only information about you personally is allowed in your profile. Pictures that you upload can be enlarged or reduced in size, click on the photo and try it out. For the next time, you can go to the Menu, click on your name or profile picture and go to Edit - Photos - Upload.

Some more tricks, also already included in the above question about attractivity:

We recommend to upload a profile picture that shows you as natural as possible but also from a good perspective, here is a life hack for that: Record a video of your face and the most beautiful landscape, your favorite activity, or whatever comes to your mind as something you like in others and make screenshots of the scenes were your face looks the best. Upload the best screenshot of that video as a profile picture.

If you are not good at deciding what looks best, try to google celebrity photography and look at their perspective.

Some more lifehacks to improve the profile picture even further: Try to laugh or grin or show a cute smile. Or for men: Try to look competent (that can also include being able to take care of a child or a pet).

More tricks for Men or people that want to appear masculine: The best perspecive is from the side, with a sharp filter.

For women or people that want to appear feminine: The best perspective is from above, side or front and a happy expression with an aesthetic wardrobe, a softer filter and warm colors, if you look cute and soft it's a big bonus.

For everyone: Keep it casual and not too nerdy, look relatable and take pictures of situations were you had a great time.

If you are into a special type of people, find out what style they prefer and appeal to that style. But keep your own touch your own self to it. Stay real.

If you like someone and he or she looks promising, request a Like or send a Private Message. Your chosen one will then receive a notification on the platform as well as by email. If your Like is accepted, you will also receive a notification.

With a confirmed Like, you can find each other as friends at any time. Increase the chance of successful contact by sending a message that refers to a profile entry or a picture.

You can also reply directly to the person of your interest in an Interest Group or Activity post.

Via Message option you are redirected to livechat, were you can write with each other in real  time. You can make the Livechat go fullscreen or minimize it. To got back, go the the back icon on the upper left side.

Increase your own popularity by being active, clicking through profiles and getting in touch with users. Share your enjoyment of music, videos, real-life impressions, your thoughts and much more in the activity area. Comment on posts/pictures and take part in groups or discussions in interest groups. It's also about becoming more popular not with everyone, but with the people who sincerely accept you as you are right now. That's what the focus on personality in swiping and the personality tests and matching questions and system is for. Also look at what kind of vibes you have when interacting with others, is it a nice exchange? Is there honest appreciation?

Only here: Directly to like-minded people by clicking on Match Question answer: You click on a Match Question answer, either on your own profile or on a profile, and you will automatically be shown like-minded people with the same answer! This saves time, try it out now.

To search by choosing criteria like what gender someone has to be or what music you would like him or her to listen to, go to Search in the menu, here you can search according to the following criteria:

Covid-Shot: Yes or No? Gender (F/M/other), City, State, Age Range (minum Age 18! Everything under 18 is not allowed to join on Realmance), Zodiac Sign, Rising Sign, Human Design, Myer-Briggs-Type (known under the abbreviations INFJ, ESTP, INFP and so on), Enneagram, Ethnicity, Height Range (in cm), Diet, Smoker: Yes, No or only the green stuff, Alcohol: Yes or No, spoken Languages: German, English, Russian, French, Japanese, Hindi, Mandarin, Italian, Spanish, Portuguese, Arabic. Haircolor, Hairlenght, Physique, Children, Religion, Pets, Music to be listened to (also selectable): Pop, Rock, Classical, Electronic, Metal, Gothic, Grunge, Punk, Emo, Jazz, Blues, Funk, RnB/Soul, Experimental, Hip-Hop, Rap, Deutschrap, Reggae, Reggaeton, Schlager.

There is only the function to enter a city and a state, we have deliberately omitted distance and location, as it is safer for data protection reasons. Instead, you can enter the city or state directly to see people nearby. Make sure to enter the correct name of your city or nearby cities.

You can find the best fit through Match Question Answers at the top and blurry profile picture at the bottom. On all other sites the focus is too much on appearance, we made it different, your personality counts, you count. You swipe as usual from left to right or right to left or use the buttons at top. You can swipe left again, because nobody is sorted out here, also the focus is on people who are currently online or were online recently, not distance, wonderful relationships with focus on personality transcend distance. Find your personality-focused hidden gem on Realmance today!

The grass is greener on the other side? Not always. Yes, we agree that there should be more unity and loyalty. We give tips for more unity:

Article coming soon.

After setting the profile picture or clicking on the logo, you will land on the Activities page. Here you can share Realmance with your friends, like posts from users, reply to them, share your thoughts, upload photos, share video links or even add Spotify songs and playlists.

We completely agree with you, there are too many that are just like casino machines and don't bring the right people together at all, plus many are fake.

Realmance stands for real and romance, but also real people, real friendship and a place where you find people that vibe with you, the setup of other datingsites that were bought by a huge corporation opposes that.

This is why we brought a swipe function that focuses on personality and a focus on social interaction without having to earn credits and a match system that really calculates based on match questions like good sites used to do it.

Realmance is about being real and bringing together genuine, honest people with backbone, plus those who are really compatible, that is why the founder, Emanuel, invested a long time to develop the site, match questions and personality tests.

Nearly everything we earn is geared towards a more humane approach, inclusion and social projects. To find out more or if you like what you read and want to help, click on Social Projects or other options under Social Matters in the footer area.

You've come to the right place. We have a greater focus on data protection than many other dating sites. The site is SSL protected. Despite the fact that you can share Spotify songs as well as playlists and YouTube videos, these are only activated after your consent, and we have no social share buttons, since those also often spy on other sites, just share the link to our site if you want to, this way it's way more safe. In addition, we have deliberately omitted the distance and location function in the search for data protection reasons, instead you can enter the city or state directly to see people nearby.

Please consider checking our FAQ as your first resource. Also feel free to check our articles and signup for our newsletter, we have covered most personality-based answers here. Our online dating platform offers extremely low fees compared to mainstream dating platforms, we also give away coupons for free trials. We recommend reaching out to the support team (located in the footer on the homepage under "Help") only if the FAQ or other options do not provide a solution to your inquiry. In that case, you will receive the answer in your email inbox. To better cater to your needs, we would love to hear what you wish to see in the FAQ. Feel free to participate in our survey/poll if you'd like and let us know how we can enhance the FAQ to assist you more effectively. Your opinion and a satisfying, humane experience on Realmance matters to us!

We are amazed to hear that! In the footer of the homepage, you can go to: Social Matters, here you can choose between Social Projects to support, Events to attend and help organizing or click on collaborate. If you want to give feedback to make Realmance as good as possible for everyone, feel free to use our poll. You can also support directly, we will add something to send donations for projects soon. Thank you very much!

We are very sorry to hear that! We kindly would recommend that you please use Realmance on a PC, laptop, iphone with iOS14 or Android phone, if you are using an iPhone older than iOs 14, everything works perfectly on a PC or laptop or iPhones from iOs 14 and Android phones. We apologize for the inconvenience. If you can't find a solution to use Realmance at all kindly let us know via contact.

Attention - technical: Unfortunately, since 2022 some functions for iPhones with a version older than 14.0 are no longer supported by the system with which we built Realmance. This was not the case until the beginning of 2022. However, this is for security reasons on the part of the developers and the safety of you naturally comes first for us. We apologize for the inconvenience.

If we find a solution for this, e.g. a fallback to a chat and text without animation, we will update it. We would love to provide all users of old iphones with that solution.

This is a deliberate choice. This way, more attention is devoted to the individual person, who they are, what they give and what they need. We want to avoid that people would think the grass would be greener on the other site. That is what the practice of other dating apps and sites led to. We will change that for the better, for a more humane way.

This practice on datingapps has led to - people, who would have been a good match - being treated badly and dumped, because the brain tells this assumption based on the usually many results on usual sites and apps.

We do things differently. We want you to experience a humane, good treatment. Realmance stands for more humaneness and personality first.

Please proceed as follows:

Under Search, enter your location under City and select the country from the drop-down menu under Country. Then just confirm.

These are the genders. Male, Female or if unknown/other option.

 

Your question is not already answered in the FAQ? We are sorry about that, we want to help you as good as possible!

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